Who and When to Ask for Help

It is never too early to make plans for the future.

Pride is huge. We may not realize how much so until we need to ask for assistance. Asking for help be humbling. It can be unsettling. It can also be liberating. It can provide answers for questions that are keeping you up at night. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Receiving assistance can also provide you with an extra set of hands or access to resources that can make your day easier, possibly safer, and definitely healthier for everyone involved. It can also make your life more accessible so that you can focus your energy on your priorities.

The above is true whether you are a caregiver needing assistance (or simply needing a break!) or if you are a senior who in need of assistance with day-to-day tasks or more. There is a saying that a problem shared is a problem halved and, by asking for help, it brings a solution that much closer.

Life comes with changes and it can be hard to accept them. Perhaps your mom has been the go-to person for any family member in need. It can be difficult to switch roles. It is important to remind your loved one that there are family and friends who would welcome an opportunity to help. Sometimes reaching out can strengthen a relationship by allowing someone to provide support and tap into their own strengths.

How do you recognize the signs that your loved one may need help?

• If a situation is affecting their physical or mental health, or has the potential to do so, they need help.
• Where would they register on the happy meter? Are they experiencing sadness, depression or loss of control over what used to be daily tasks?
• Are they isolated and no longer socializing? If the answer is yes, it is wise to reach out and offer assistance.
• Forgetfulness is a red flag. Missed medications, appointments or missed payments can have a domino effect.

It can be tough to address issues but there are professionals who can advise you on the types of support services that may be available to you. It helps to write out your concerns so that you can identify key areas. And try not to get ahead of your thoughts. A call for assistance doesn’t necessarily mean moving your parent out of their home but could mean implementing extra help in terms of housekeeping or home maintenance. It possibly may, one day, become a care decision that requires retirement living or long term care but, for now, look for immediate answers.

Bayshore Home Health is a great place to start. Our Care Managers can listen to your concerns and then assist in identifying what type of help may be required. No obligation, just a friendly voice with experience in these matters.